tennisballIf you’ve ever played tennis you know what happens when the ball hits the perfect spot on the racket…it simply works and it feels effortless. The same can be true in the workplace or in ministry.

It’s not always a bad thing to not be hitting the sweet spot, there’s a learning curve and God will use difficult and frustrating experiences to build perseverance, faith, courage, and so on. However, our effectiveness in the kingdom is directly related to making good decisions about “how” we serve.

Mike Breen has a great blog about the extended family and creating oikos in our local churches. I’m so glad to be on mission with pastor Jed Haas and the other leaders at Mercy Road Church in Appleton, WI. Here’s a excerpt from the blog that spoke to me.


Here’s some questions you might ask about the team you’re serving with:

  • Would I want to go on vacation with them?
  • Would I voluntarily choose to hang out with them/their family because I want to and not because it’s forced?
  • Am I doing things that let them into the life of myself and my family?

Here’s the issue: Creating this kind of extended family isn’t something you should do because you might find yourself on staff at a church. It’s not your job. You want this for the people you’re serving who have “regular” 9-5 jobs, not just for your staff. You do this because you’re human. Because you need it. Because God created you this way.


Personally, I don’t want to go through the motions of swinging the racket and just hitting the ball. I think I’ve found a sweet spot with the people of Mercy Road and being on mission in the Appleton, WI area. How about you? What do you think? How is extended family working in your local church? I’d love to hear from you.

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